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4 Things to Consider When Choosing Your Person of Honor

You have so many amazing people in your life, so choosing a Person of Honor might be a little tricky. You love them all, and obviously don’t want to make anyone feel bad or left out, so then how do you make one of the biggest decisions in your wedding planning?

Here are 4 tips to help you with your decision.

What do you need

Before you start thinking of who you want to ask to be your ride or die at the top of the aisle and throughout your wedding planning process, think about what kind of support and help you’re going to need during the months leading up to your wedding. Will you need someone who can help you rock out your long To-Do list, or simply want to honor a special someone in your life? If you’re going to need your Person of Honor to be more hands on, consider someone who loves planning and is organized, calm, and creative. When making your decision, keep in mind their strengths, as well as yours, for your perfect Person of Honor match.

Consider Their Schedule

Before you ask a friend or family member to take a leading role in your wedding party, take some time to think about what their current schedule and commitments look like. For example, if your bestie just had a baby, they may not have the time or energy to take on extra wedding planning tasks as well. Also remember to keep in mind all the things you will want your Person of Honor to do. If you really want to ask your younger sibling, keep their age in mind and if they’re old enough to fully plan any specific pre-wedding bash you might be hoping for.

Don’t Be Afraid To Break Out of The Box

This is YOUR wedding, and there is nothing stopping you from choosing more than one person to stand with you, or none at all. If you can’t choose between your two BFFs or a sibling, why not spread out love and ask your entire squad to help out equally with the extra details in your wedding planning. This way, everyone feels like they have an important role in your special day, and you won’t be stressing about anyone’s feeling being hurt. Not having a Person of Honor isn’t going to change your wedding day, so don’t feel pressured into making a decision when you don’t have to. At the end of the day, you’re still going to be marrying the love of your life, and your people will all be there to celebrate that with you.

It May Not Be The Obvious Choice

Know that it’s absolutely ok to look beyond what you may think are the obvious choices of a sibling or best friend to fill this important role. Your mom, dad, aunt, uncle, cousin, etc., are all wonderful choices to think of as well.

Always remember that your wedding day is about you and your partner. There is no hard and fast rule about who you should choose to be your Person, or People, of Honor.